Equality in Loving Relationships
Setting standards or boundaries and non-negotiables is an important part of aligning with healthy partnerships, as is Sexual intimacy within a romantic relationship.
Ąn overlooked aspect of aligning with healthy partnerships, is that it is co-created – not something we simply ‘fall’ into with the right person.
Goodbey dependency!
Hello Interdependence!
Ço-creation of a healthy partnership, requires a deep need to cultivate the skills required to do so on a consistent basis.
Most people were never modelled on these skills by their parents or teachers … hence the following social skills are lacking.
COMMUNICATION WITH SELF
COMMUNICATION WITH OTHER
COMMON LANGUAGE DEVELOPMENT
COMMON UNITY
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Īn many cases, our childhood experiences leave us completely unprepared for healthy intimacy AND healthy disagreements.
By unlearning our unconscious coping mechanisms and associations with closeness and then re-learning the skills of a secure, authentic intimacy from the base upwards ~ will pay DIVIDEND UPON DIVIDEND in ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS IN TIME!
ĘVERYONE DESERVES REWARDING INTIMATE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS …
THE QUESTION IS … How are you supposed to know how to do something that you were never taught to do …
Ṭhe romantic ideal that with the right person, things will just work out, has sabotaged many a promising relationship.
Ţhe reality is that CONTROL AND EXPECTATION is at the Heart of ALL BREAKUPS and DISAPPOINTMENTS.!ŢHOSE OF US WHO have experienced childhood emotional neglect and insecure attachment = REJECTION AND ABANDONMENT … NEVER QUITE LEARN HOW TO RECEIVE PROPERLY .
ĪT’S OK TO DISCUSS YOUR NEEDS OPENLY WITHIN A SAFE RELATIONSHIP WHERE NURTURING IS A WARM BLANKET OF TRUST – ENVELOPING ALL IN IT’S WAKE!
hat DOES happen very often, is we might ‘manifest’ our ‘perfect partner’, fall in love and then feel like everything has worked out – FINALLY!
Ønly to find out a few months or years down the line, once the chemical INTERACTIONS SUBSIDED …
That all the issues that were PRESENT in our past relationships are now back just as strong, if not worse THAN BEFORE …
ṬHE SHIFT INTO SPIRITUAL CONNECTION:
Ţhe GREAT news is that developing the skill set of secure, healthy intimacy is not that difficult.
ĄCTUALLY IT IS AS SIMPLE AS –
LISTEN & STAY PRESENT
TOUCH
COMMUNICATION
ONE THING AT A TIME
NO STORIES FROM THE PAST
TALK ONLY ABOUT PRESENT E-MOTIONS
What IS difficult for many though, is a WILLINGNESS to leave behind the PAST: MANY JUST DOES NOT ACTUALLY KNOW HOW TO PUT THEMSELVES FIRST, AND NOT CONFUSE – SELF LOVE WITH BEING SELFISH!
Ţhis is especially hard to REALLY DISCERN – when so much around us perpetuates this consistently harmful, destructive vision of love, and consistently confuses SELF LOVE AND THEN SELFISH BEHAVIOUR.
Whether it is just ‘fairytales’ or Hollywood, or the ‘insta couples’ who present a highly CURATED FACADE of their love bubble on social media …
The TRUTH IS – NO ONE IS JUST A PERFECT SAINT … AND THANKS F@CK for that …
(excuse the expression)
…. bring fantasy alive again … there is hope!
ASSISTED THERAPY SESSIONS OF LOVE.
ĪT is ADMIRABLE to have the courage to see reality for what it is and TO THEN CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to face it with the skills & tools needed to co-create the lives and the kind of love we wish to have and rightly deserve.
We have the power to transform our patterns now, in real time, but like the choice just to have read this far ~ all things in life, starts with an intentional choice to
LEAP INTO YOUR ŢRUTH WITH AN OPEN MIND AND AN OPEN HEART.
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